Dang, It’s Really Been Two Months

April 3rd, 2009 | View Comments

I kept telling myself that it hadn’t really been that long since I last blogged. And here we are, one week shy of two months since my last post.

I’d have rather been blogging.

What started out as a weeklong visit to my dad turned into twelve days. His health kept getting worse, to the point where he could not be left alone, and my mom needed help. I stayed as long as I could until my aunt (my dad’s sister) was able to fly out and take over.

I came home, moved apartments, and discovered that my internet access didn’t move with me. I filched flaky wireless from a neighbor for three days.

That’s when I got the call from my brother to get on a plane ASAP. I flew out less than 24 hours later. I arrived on March 4. On March 17, my dad died, surrounded by the entire family.

They say that modern medicine has made the concept of death foreign to most of us, such that many of us are incapable of recognizing the signs that death is near.

I say that as long as you have heard of the “death rattle”, it doesn’t matter if you’ve never heard it before. The second that sound starts you will know exactly what it is.

I am ok-ish. I have the best support network a girl could ask for, honestly. While I will miss my dad and am sad that he’s gone, he doesn’t have to suffer anymore and that’s important.

Mostly I am exhausted. If I take the Life Stress Test, the events from the last two years add up to well over 300 points, which means

High susceptibility to stress-related illness
Daily practice of relaxation skills is very important for your wellness. Take care of it now before a serious illness erupts or an affliction becomes worse.

And I didn’t even add the additional 20 points I’ll incur next week when I fly to Taiwan, not for “vacation”, but for “my dad’s second funeral, and this time I get to speak in Chinese” so it’s probably worth more than 20 points. No wonder the grey hairs are sprouting like weeds. Yet I feel like I’m shamelessly whining. My mom is still chugging and her stress test comes out to over 400.

So please forgive me if I take it a little easy on the blogging for the next month or so. If nothing else, I need a knitting break to catch up on my hideous backlog of work. I imagine I’ll be back up to full speed May-ish.

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CogKnition posted this on April 3rd, 2009 @ 3:05pm in Life as a Knitter | Permalink to "Dang, It’s Really Been Two Months"


  1. Carmen says:

    Hugs sweetie.
    It was great seeing you again, we missed you. We’re glad to see you are doing so well and hope you feel even better soon.

  2. Grace says:

    Dear Yvonne,

    We don’t know each other, but I benefitted from your revision of Eunny Jang’s wave stole a year ago and love your blog. My sympathy goes out to you. Losing a father was the most heartbreaking moment of my life, and I’m glad you were there for him.

    Warm regards, Grace

  3. porpoise says:

    Hey chickadee, glad that you’re back and sorry that you’re off again so soon. Take care of yourself, ok?

  4. KathyMarie says:

    Yvonne, I’m sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. I wish you calm and strength over the next few weeks (and after). Take care of yourself.